You remember the days of Jr. High and High school, and everything that made it awkward? I remember those days. I remember being up front about my feelings to the guys I had a crush on. I would either tell them up front (if I was brave enough), but always ended up me giving them a note telling them that I like them. But it always ended the same; them only liking me as a sister.
After high school, I'm in a relationship for 4+ years with a guy that I truly love. I will run into the guys that I crushed on in high school, and I'll try to have a conversation with them and make up for making them feel awkward.
But what I got was them thinking that I still am in love with them. Of course they don't think that I moved on and that I don't see them in that way. They think that even though that I have a boyfriend that I still in love with them and that I'm still trying to get with them. You're not that great of guys and honestly most of you are a bunch of
tools. I don't think that I'm perfect, but I'm a good person and if
none of you can see that then I don't need you in my life if you can't be grateful for my friendship. I moved on and I'm with a guy that I truly care for and see myself being with for the rest of my life.
Word of Advice: Don't mistake my offer of friendship with trying to be with you romantically. Get off your high horse.
Restlessly Still
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Saturday, September 29, 2012
Stop Bullying
I. Introduction
A. Image a ten year old boy with a Multiple Sclerosis and requires two walking canes to help him move, and because of it he gets bullied. The child tells the teacher and his parents, and the bully gets punished. The bully is upset and because of it and torments the boy more still torments the boy, and the boy ends up committing suicide by putting a plastic bag over his head and suffocates. This is a true story and it isn’t the only one about children committing suicide, or attempt the deed.
B. Bullying in today’s society has become an epidemic and by educating everyone, specifically focusing on bullies, this would be a safer society.
C. I have my Associate of Science in Early Childhood Education, I’m working on my Bachelor’s of Science in Child Development. I work in the child center at college of the canyons. I was a victim of being bullied, and I’ve done extensive research on this subject.
D. Today I’m going to be discussing with you that there is a problem with bullying, what to look for in both bullies and victims, and the effective methods that are used to help both bullies and the victims.
II. Body
A. There is a problem of people bullying others. (Show video of the different types)
1. There is more than one type of bullying and it is easy to bully others.
a. Physical is where another person beats up another person
i. Example: A person goes up to another person and starts punching, hitting, and kicking.
b. Verbal is name calling and joking at another person’s expense
i. Example: Calling someone loser, or using demeaning names; Jap, N word, fag
c. Indirect is spreading rumors about another person, or exclude certain people from groups.
i. Example: “Did you hear that Susie slept with Joey. She is such a slut.”
d. Cyber is bullying another person through text messages, facebook/emails. Which make bullying a lot easier to do
i. Example: Threading someone, calling them demeaning names, spreading rumors about another person through emails, facebook messages, or text messages
2. It has become a problem for both the bully and the victim.
a. According to Englander and Muldowney, 2007 “42% of students surveyed reported make they had been cyber-bullied via instant messaging.”
b. Another survey by Englander and Muldowney, 2006-2008 “22% of the subjects admitted to cyber-bullying someone else, with 20% admitting to bullying during school hours.”
c. According to Claire L. Fox, The article, The social skills problems of victims of bullying: Self, peer and teacher perceptions “A small number of studies have found that victims of school bullying tend to exhibit poor social skills.”
3. Victims commit suicide from the result of being bullied.
i. In the article Behavioral Disorders, Bullying and Students with Disabilities: Legal and Practice Considerations, Feb 2012 by John W. Maag “In Davis v. Monroe County Board of Education (1999), the Supreme Court established a litmus test to determine whether peeron-peer harassment results in district liability. This case involved a girl who was sexually harassed. As a result, her grades plummeted and she contemplated suicide as school officials took no action despite being informed of the harassment.”
ii. The victims are usually the ones with a certain disabilities, and they tend to have depression and anxiety. This effects their self-esteem and how they see themselves and others, and how they function in school.
iii. Ken Rigby in Suicide & Life-Threatening Behavior "that approximately 1 male in 6 and 1 female in 8 is bullied by peers on a weekly basis." and later in the article he states " Those who repeatedly engage in this behavior (on a weekly basis) are relatively few, comprising about 8% of boys and 4% of girls."
iv. On the website bullyingstatistics.org 2012 "Suicide continues to be one of the leading causes of death among children under the age of 14. Bullycide is a term used to describe suicide as the result of bullying. New bullying statistics 2010 are reporting that there is a strong connection between bullying, being bullied and suicide, according to a new study from the Yale School of Medicine. Suicide rates are continuing to grow among adolescents, and have grown more than 50 percent in the past 30 years." it also said " 56% witnesses a bullying crime at school and that 1 out of 10 students drop out, or changes schools because bullying."
Next I’m going to discuss with you,
B. What to look for in both bullies and victims.
1. Characteristics of a bully:
i. Bully/Victim Problems Among Preschool Children: a Review of Current Research Evidence Sep 2011 Educational Psychology Review By Maria Vlachou described a bully to be "“(1) it is an aggressive behavior of intentional ‘harmdoing’ (2) which is carried out repeatedly and over time (3) in an interpersonal relationship characterized by an imbalance of power” (Olweus and Limber 1999:31). He also added that “the bullying behavior often occurs without apparent provocation,” and “negative actions can be carried out by physical contact, by words, or in other ways, such as making faces or mean gestures, and intentional exclusion from a group” (Olweus1999: 11). Bullying may, therefore, take a variety of forms including physical (i.e., hitting, kicking, or punching) and verbal abuse (i.e., threatening, mocking, name-calling, or spreading malicious rumors), social isolation, and/or exclusion (Lagerspetz et al.1988)."
ii. A bully may have some sort of problems like psychological problems, or family problems. A bully also has low self-esteem themselves and will pick on others to make them feel better about themselves, and this will make them think they are better than others and boost their moral. In some cases, a bully may be jealous the victim, or they may have little to no respect for other people. A bully may be annoyed with the victim in some way like; the way the victim looks or acts. Peer Pressure is another reason why someone would bully another person, so they will impress other people, or to be accepted in social groups. Lastly, people tend to bully other people because the bully is afraid that they maybe bullied themselves.
2. Characteristics of the Victim.
i. The victims will have low self-esteem, depression, poor grades, keep to themselves, helpless, and lonely.
ii. "Victims perceive their families as characterized by high levels of cohesion (Bowers et al., 1992) and low scores on negotiation (Oliver et al., 1994; Rican et al., 1993). An association was found between victimization and ambivalent attachment relationships. Compared with a group of controls, victims of bullying reported that their fathers had more power than did their mothers. They perceived siblings as being slightly less powerful compared to themselves (Bowers et al., 1992). Furthermore, it was found that victims perceive small differences on parental monitoring compared to control children, thus revealing a less accurate monitoring style (Bowers et al., 1994). Clear differences were found between boys and girls. For boys, it was found that victimization is associated with a negative relationship with the absent father in single-- parent families. Victimized girls reported more negativism and hostility (Rican et al., 1993) and a negative relationship with the mother (Rigby, 1993). It was found that the family encourages less autonomy in girls (Rican, 1993). " according to Stevens, V; De Bourdeaudhuij Journal of Youth and Adolescence (2002) in Relationship of the Family environment to children's involvement in bully/victim problems at school.
Next I’m going to share,
C. The effective methods that are used to help both the bullies and the victims.
1. Educating children from an early age.
i. Children notice the difference at a early age, as young as 4 years old.
ii. Example: Child notice another child has curly hair. Child A “Your hair is funny looking.” Child B seems upset by this comment. An adult (parent, teacher) can do is to sit with both children and teach them that everyone is different and that is okay. This will help children find more effective and less hurtful ways of pointing out differences. This method is used at my work, and it has been successful.
iii. Back to the article Bully/Victim Problems Among Preschool Children: a Review of Current Research Evidence Sep 2011, Educational Psychology Review By Maria Vlachou shares "Entering formal preschool education is a crucial developmental step in many children’s lives mainly because it is within this context where they participate, for the first time, as members in a stable peer group and well-organized team activities. Consequently, preschool may be the first context beyond the home environment where children’s difficulties in social interactions with peers can be primarily detected and assessed by adults and professionals. The early identification and elimination, therefore, of these problems at this young age prevent their escalation in later years and minimize their negative impact on children’s social and emotional development while foster their successful adaptation in school."
2. Getting Parents involved.
i. Parents are great allies and if both teachers and parents can work together help both the bullies and the victims. This can be a positive and a very effective.
ii. Having this repetition both in homes and schools will help the bully understand and get them to stop .
3. Talking it out with the bullies.
i. Do not just punish the bully without communicating with them and letting know why they are being punished.
ii. Don’t make the punishment or time out too long depending on the age and the development of the child. If it is too long then the child will more and likely forget why they are being punish and they are going to feel angry because they got punished.
iii. Give them warnings. Example: If a child is hitting another child, go up to the child is doing the hitting and let them know that they need to stop, and if they don’t that a punishment will be enforced.
vi. Communicate with them in a kind and loving tone. Be approachable.
v. Work and communicate with the parents of both sides.
vi. Start helping children at a young age. The younger you can help children the easier it is going to be for them to not bullying others.
III. Conclusion
A. I have just discussed with you that there is a problem, what to look for in both bullies and victims, and the effective methods that are used to help both bullies and the victims.
B. Bullying in today’s society has become a n epidemic and by educating everyone, specifically focusing on bullies, this would be a safer society.
C. Now that we know that there is a problem with bullying. If we can get teachers and parents of both the bullies and the victims to work together we can help reduce the suicide rates and we might put an end to bullying.
A. Image a ten year old boy with a Multiple Sclerosis and requires two walking canes to help him move, and because of it he gets bullied. The child tells the teacher and his parents, and the bully gets punished. The bully is upset and because of it and torments the boy more still torments the boy, and the boy ends up committing suicide by putting a plastic bag over his head and suffocates. This is a true story and it isn’t the only one about children committing suicide, or attempt the deed.
B. Bullying in today’s society has become an epidemic and by educating everyone, specifically focusing on bullies, this would be a safer society.
C. I have my Associate of Science in Early Childhood Education, I’m working on my Bachelor’s of Science in Child Development. I work in the child center at college of the canyons. I was a victim of being bullied, and I’ve done extensive research on this subject.
D. Today I’m going to be discussing with you that there is a problem with bullying, what to look for in both bullies and victims, and the effective methods that are used to help both bullies and the victims.
II. Body
A. There is a problem of people bullying others. (Show video of the different types)
1. There is more than one type of bullying and it is easy to bully others.
a. Physical is where another person beats up another person
i. Example: A person goes up to another person and starts punching, hitting, and kicking.
b. Verbal is name calling and joking at another person’s expense
i. Example: Calling someone loser, or using demeaning names; Jap, N word, fag
c. Indirect is spreading rumors about another person, or exclude certain people from groups.
i. Example: “Did you hear that Susie slept with Joey. She is such a slut.”
d. Cyber is bullying another person through text messages, facebook/emails. Which make bullying a lot easier to do
i. Example: Threading someone, calling them demeaning names, spreading rumors about another person through emails, facebook messages, or text messages
2. It has become a problem for both the bully and the victim.
a. According to Englander and Muldowney, 2007 “42% of students surveyed reported make they had been cyber-bullied via instant messaging.”
b. Another survey by Englander and Muldowney, 2006-2008 “22% of the subjects admitted to cyber-bullying someone else, with 20% admitting to bullying during school hours.”
c. According to Claire L. Fox, The article, The social skills problems of victims of bullying: Self, peer and teacher perceptions “A small number of studies have found that victims of school bullying tend to exhibit poor social skills.”
3. Victims commit suicide from the result of being bullied.
i. In the article Behavioral Disorders, Bullying and Students with Disabilities: Legal and Practice Considerations, Feb 2012 by John W. Maag “In Davis v. Monroe County Board of Education (1999), the Supreme Court established a litmus test to determine whether peeron-peer harassment results in district liability. This case involved a girl who was sexually harassed. As a result, her grades plummeted and she contemplated suicide as school officials took no action despite being informed of the harassment.”
ii. The victims are usually the ones with a certain disabilities, and they tend to have depression and anxiety. This effects their self-esteem and how they see themselves and others, and how they function in school.
iii. Ken Rigby in Suicide & Life-Threatening Behavior "that approximately 1 male in 6 and 1 female in 8 is bullied by peers on a weekly basis." and later in the article he states " Those who repeatedly engage in this behavior (on a weekly basis) are relatively few, comprising about 8% of boys and 4% of girls."
iv. On the website bullyingstatistics.org 2012 "Suicide continues to be one of the leading causes of death among children under the age of 14. Bullycide is a term used to describe suicide as the result of bullying. New bullying statistics 2010 are reporting that there is a strong connection between bullying, being bullied and suicide, according to a new study from the Yale School of Medicine. Suicide rates are continuing to grow among adolescents, and have grown more than 50 percent in the past 30 years." it also said " 56% witnesses a bullying crime at school and that 1 out of 10 students drop out, or changes schools because bullying."
Next I’m going to discuss with you,
B. What to look for in both bullies and victims.
1. Characteristics of a bully:
i. Bully/Victim Problems Among Preschool Children: a Review of Current Research Evidence Sep 2011 Educational Psychology Review By Maria Vlachou described a bully to be "“(1) it is an aggressive behavior of intentional ‘harmdoing’ (2) which is carried out repeatedly and over time (3) in an interpersonal relationship characterized by an imbalance of power” (Olweus and Limber 1999:31). He also added that “the bullying behavior often occurs without apparent provocation,” and “negative actions can be carried out by physical contact, by words, or in other ways, such as making faces or mean gestures, and intentional exclusion from a group” (Olweus1999: 11). Bullying may, therefore, take a variety of forms including physical (i.e., hitting, kicking, or punching) and verbal abuse (i.e., threatening, mocking, name-calling, or spreading malicious rumors), social isolation, and/or exclusion (Lagerspetz et al.1988)."
ii. A bully may have some sort of problems like psychological problems, or family problems. A bully also has low self-esteem themselves and will pick on others to make them feel better about themselves, and this will make them think they are better than others and boost their moral. In some cases, a bully may be jealous the victim, or they may have little to no respect for other people. A bully may be annoyed with the victim in some way like; the way the victim looks or acts. Peer Pressure is another reason why someone would bully another person, so they will impress other people, or to be accepted in social groups. Lastly, people tend to bully other people because the bully is afraid that they maybe bullied themselves.
2. Characteristics of the Victim.
i. The victims will have low self-esteem, depression, poor grades, keep to themselves, helpless, and lonely.
ii. "Victims perceive their families as characterized by high levels of cohesion (Bowers et al., 1992) and low scores on negotiation (Oliver et al., 1994; Rican et al., 1993). An association was found between victimization and ambivalent attachment relationships. Compared with a group of controls, victims of bullying reported that their fathers had more power than did their mothers. They perceived siblings as being slightly less powerful compared to themselves (Bowers et al., 1992). Furthermore, it was found that victims perceive small differences on parental monitoring compared to control children, thus revealing a less accurate monitoring style (Bowers et al., 1994). Clear differences were found between boys and girls. For boys, it was found that victimization is associated with a negative relationship with the absent father in single-- parent families. Victimized girls reported more negativism and hostility (Rican et al., 1993) and a negative relationship with the mother (Rigby, 1993). It was found that the family encourages less autonomy in girls (Rican, 1993). " according to Stevens, V; De Bourdeaudhuij Journal of Youth and Adolescence (2002) in Relationship of the Family environment to children's involvement in bully/victim problems at school.
Next I’m going to share,
C. The effective methods that are used to help both the bullies and the victims.
1. Educating children from an early age.
i. Children notice the difference at a early age, as young as 4 years old.
ii. Example: Child notice another child has curly hair. Child A “Your hair is funny looking.” Child B seems upset by this comment. An adult (parent, teacher) can do is to sit with both children and teach them that everyone is different and that is okay. This will help children find more effective and less hurtful ways of pointing out differences. This method is used at my work, and it has been successful.
iii. Back to the article Bully/Victim Problems Among Preschool Children: a Review of Current Research Evidence Sep 2011, Educational Psychology Review By Maria Vlachou shares "Entering formal preschool education is a crucial developmental step in many children’s lives mainly because it is within this context where they participate, for the first time, as members in a stable peer group and well-organized team activities. Consequently, preschool may be the first context beyond the home environment where children’s difficulties in social interactions with peers can be primarily detected and assessed by adults and professionals. The early identification and elimination, therefore, of these problems at this young age prevent their escalation in later years and minimize their negative impact on children’s social and emotional development while foster their successful adaptation in school."
2. Getting Parents involved.
i. Parents are great allies and if both teachers and parents can work together help both the bullies and the victims. This can be a positive and a very effective.
ii. Having this repetition both in homes and schools will help the bully understand and get them to stop .
3. Talking it out with the bullies.
i. Do not just punish the bully without communicating with them and letting know why they are being punished.
ii. Don’t make the punishment or time out too long depending on the age and the development of the child. If it is too long then the child will more and likely forget why they are being punish and they are going to feel angry because they got punished.
iii. Give them warnings. Example: If a child is hitting another child, go up to the child is doing the hitting and let them know that they need to stop, and if they don’t that a punishment will be enforced.
vi. Communicate with them in a kind and loving tone. Be approachable.
v. Work and communicate with the parents of both sides.
vi. Start helping children at a young age. The younger you can help children the easier it is going to be for them to not bullying others.
III. Conclusion
A. I have just discussed with you that there is a problem, what to look for in both bullies and victims, and the effective methods that are used to help both bullies and the victims.
B. Bullying in today’s society has become a n epidemic and by educating everyone, specifically focusing on bullies, this would be a safer society.
C. Now that we know that there is a problem with bullying. If we can get teachers and parents of both the bullies and the victims to work together we can help reduce the suicide rates and we might put an end to bullying.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
The "rules" of the "game"
I know that I have a few post about relationships and the fun of it, but some people think that relationships go wrong because of an outside force that is making them do horrible things to end it. An example:
"I feel as though my subconscious is determined to ruin me. In the past, there has only been one person, ONE person, who I legitimately liked as much as I let on. He absolutely destroyed me. And I mean, absolutely. There was a song I couldn't listen to without crying for over a year afterwards. I wish I was kidding. See, the thing is, while he had his faults it was mostly me who pushed him to destroy me. Ironic, isn't it? It was one of those breakups where you're left sitting on the floor amongst the shattered pieces of the relationship, wondering what the heck went wrong. Well, I figured out the things I did that I wasn't proud of, and didn't like. And I vowed, there amongst the wreckage, that I would never make those same mistakes again. After all, I knew better, didn't I? Well, I've been out of practice. There has been a random stream of guys coming into and out of my life, most of which were simply convenience. I hardly got emotionally attached, (save for one exception, but I digress), and it was me who did the heart-breaking when I simply couldn't stand their flaws any longer (except in that one case). It sounds unbelievably harsh, yes, but that's what I did. I'm not trying to justify my actions, or make you understand, I'm just trying to get all of this screaming nonsense out of my head. Why? Because there is this guy. This wonderful guy, whom I only seem to like more the more I learn about him. I made it 2 months without reverting to the tactics I swore I wouldn't employ again.
See, I have this nasty habit of trying to manipulate and orchestrate conversations. If I am not getting the level of affection I'm craving, I try to weasel it out. Usually, that involves me cranking up the dial on my own affection in an attempt to bait them. Well, it doesn't work on guys who are actually worth being with. Surprise, surprise. So you end up making them uncomfortable and making them take even more space. It's counter intuitive, really. Well, I did. Again. Then I forced into the awkward, "be careful with your heart" conversation, which is basically guy code for "You're freaking my junk out. If you're gonna be like this all the time then maybe I need to rethink this."
The thing is that if you know that you do this and you do it to a person that you "truly" care for; then shouldn't you try to make an effort to stop playing petty games? If you are afraid to lose someone because of the games you play, so it seems like the logical answer to this problem is that you don't really care for them. If you love someone then you won't play these games...you would try everything to show them that you are good enough for them.
Every crush I had on I was always up front about my feelings, and I did get hurt because they started to act like jerks because saying they don't like me back was too much work. But I still didn't fall into the playing games until a guy notice me. It paid off for me at the end because I was honest with one of my crushes in high school; two years after high school we hung out more and one day he asked me to be his. I didn't play any games at all. We were both up front with each other and we are both very happy for 4 years and still going strong!
Word of Advice: Everyone is done playing games. Just be up front about your feelings. If you have a problem like the example then maybe you should try to work on it.
"I feel as though my subconscious is determined to ruin me. In the past, there has only been one person, ONE person, who I legitimately liked as much as I let on. He absolutely destroyed me. And I mean, absolutely. There was a song I couldn't listen to without crying for over a year afterwards. I wish I was kidding. See, the thing is, while he had his faults it was mostly me who pushed him to destroy me. Ironic, isn't it? It was one of those breakups where you're left sitting on the floor amongst the shattered pieces of the relationship, wondering what the heck went wrong. Well, I figured out the things I did that I wasn't proud of, and didn't like. And I vowed, there amongst the wreckage, that I would never make those same mistakes again. After all, I knew better, didn't I? Well, I've been out of practice. There has been a random stream of guys coming into and out of my life, most of which were simply convenience. I hardly got emotionally attached, (save for one exception, but I digress), and it was me who did the heart-breaking when I simply couldn't stand their flaws any longer (except in that one case). It sounds unbelievably harsh, yes, but that's what I did. I'm not trying to justify my actions, or make you understand, I'm just trying to get all of this screaming nonsense out of my head. Why? Because there is this guy. This wonderful guy, whom I only seem to like more the more I learn about him. I made it 2 months without reverting to the tactics I swore I wouldn't employ again.
See, I have this nasty habit of trying to manipulate and orchestrate conversations. If I am not getting the level of affection I'm craving, I try to weasel it out. Usually, that involves me cranking up the dial on my own affection in an attempt to bait them. Well, it doesn't work on guys who are actually worth being with. Surprise, surprise. So you end up making them uncomfortable and making them take even more space. It's counter intuitive, really. Well, I did. Again. Then I forced into the awkward, "be careful with your heart" conversation, which is basically guy code for "You're freaking my junk out. If you're gonna be like this all the time then maybe I need to rethink this."
The thing is that if you know that you do this and you do it to a person that you "truly" care for; then shouldn't you try to make an effort to stop playing petty games? If you are afraid to lose someone because of the games you play, so it seems like the logical answer to this problem is that you don't really care for them. If you love someone then you won't play these games...you would try everything to show them that you are good enough for them.
Every crush I had on I was always up front about my feelings, and I did get hurt because they started to act like jerks because saying they don't like me back was too much work. But I still didn't fall into the playing games until a guy notice me. It paid off for me at the end because I was honest with one of my crushes in high school; two years after high school we hung out more and one day he asked me to be his. I didn't play any games at all. We were both up front with each other and we are both very happy for 4 years and still going strong!
Word of Advice: Everyone is done playing games. Just be up front about your feelings. If you have a problem like the example then maybe you should try to work on it.
Saturday, September 22, 2012
A little hope
The past week has been rough. Monday, my mom was told that her company is selling to another one. She has a job with this new company...but it's not set in stone. The next day, my dad was told that his company was going out of business. I'm not going to lie...IT SUCKS!!!
A little hope...My mom still has a possible job with this new company. My dad's boss is seeing that they can change Fox's mind of a show, or come up with a new show. Hopefully this will work, but plan B for my dad is going to get his relater's licenses. I hope the best for my parents. I want things to be okay for them. I want to move out and move on with my life, but not with my parents are out of a job. I will do whatever it takes to help out as much as possible.
The one thing is for sure that I do not want to hear that my parents are not hard working because that is a huge fat lie! My parents are the most hard working people on this planet and they put up with so much and went through a lot to get where they are now. They never had things handed to them. I will slap anyone who say other wise.
For those who want to be me...Go ahead! Have my life! I would love to have stuff handed to me. I learned the hardships of money at the age of 5, and that lead for me to stop asking for things around birthdays and Christmas. My family doesn't have a lot of money, but they make do. Do not think my life is perfect. I work for my money and everything I have. I paid for my school and still am. I also paid for my brother's school and slowly working on saving up for a car. I never asked for help or stuff. I'm not saying my life is hard, but it is far from easy
A little hope...My mom still has a possible job with this new company. My dad's boss is seeing that they can change Fox's mind of a show, or come up with a new show. Hopefully this will work, but plan B for my dad is going to get his relater's licenses. I hope the best for my parents. I want things to be okay for them. I want to move out and move on with my life, but not with my parents are out of a job. I will do whatever it takes to help out as much as possible.
The one thing is for sure that I do not want to hear that my parents are not hard working because that is a huge fat lie! My parents are the most hard working people on this planet and they put up with so much and went through a lot to get where they are now. They never had things handed to them. I will slap anyone who say other wise.
For those who want to be me...Go ahead! Have my life! I would love to have stuff handed to me. I learned the hardships of money at the age of 5, and that lead for me to stop asking for things around birthdays and Christmas. My family doesn't have a lot of money, but they make do. Do not think my life is perfect. I work for my money and everything I have. I paid for my school and still am. I also paid for my brother's school and slowly working on saving up for a car. I never asked for help or stuff. I'm not saying my life is hard, but it is far from easy
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Dance Journal #3
Ashley Gabriele 9/11/12
1. Technical Notes: Today we learned the Cumbia (similar to the break away. The feet don't come together and they stay hip apart. The hands can be held and/or switch to having the hands on the lower back.) We learned the very, very basic of the cha-cha (slow, slow, quick quick slow) what we learned was the feel goes forward/backwards and step with leading foot, step with off foot, then quick repeats and then together and then switch foot. We also learned the the cross body (do the break steps and on the third break step, leads pull their partner to the other side and repeats to have the partner end at their original spot. I also learn a proper way to go from a spin then into a dip (Spin, go out and spin inward to your partner and hook your arm around them and trust that they don't let you fall)
2. Personal Growth: It is starting to get easier for me to step back and not be a leader and be a follower. I also learned how I can still help my partner if they don't know how to lead, and I can still guide them. Though it is really hard when some of the leaders don't put an effort into the dance, or just complain about it...it kind sucks the energy right out. I'm learning and getting the steps much quickly!
1. Technical Notes: Today we learned the Cumbia (similar to the break away. The feet don't come together and they stay hip apart. The hands can be held and/or switch to having the hands on the lower back.) We learned the very, very basic of the cha-cha (slow, slow, quick quick slow) what we learned was the feel goes forward/backwards and step with leading foot, step with off foot, then quick repeats and then together and then switch foot. We also learned the the cross body (do the break steps and on the third break step, leads pull their partner to the other side and repeats to have the partner end at their original spot. I also learn a proper way to go from a spin then into a dip (Spin, go out and spin inward to your partner and hook your arm around them and trust that they don't let you fall)
2. Personal Growth: It is starting to get easier for me to step back and not be a leader and be a follower. I also learned how I can still help my partner if they don't know how to lead, and I can still guide them. Though it is really hard when some of the leaders don't put an effort into the dance, or just complain about it...it kind sucks the energy right out. I'm learning and getting the steps much quickly!
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Dance Journal #2
1. Technical Notes: Today we learned some basic salsa moves. First we learned the break step (our feet in a V shape together and we step forward/backward with one foot and bend slightly lift the other foot off the floor, hips sway to the opposite from from starting foot.) We learned the basic (big step, small step, big step forward/back, right/left foot). We learned the salsa sides (move one foot to the side and place together). We learned the two different ways to dance with another person which are the shine (no holding hands but both party holds there hands out, but space enough apart. Lead's hands are facing down, follower's hands are up) and the hand holding (lead's hands are turn up, and the follower hands takes their hand.) We learned etiquette when asking or being ask to dance.
2. Personal Growth: When reviewing the steps last week, they seemed much easier to do and I was able to add some flare to the steps. The steps we've learned tonight were a little tricky and getting my hips to work the way I want them. I'm need to think less when dancing and trust my partner to lead and not take over. I have to learn to be comfortable dancing with other people and not just my boyfriend (who I'm very comfortable dancing with).
Dance Journal #1
In my dance class we need to do a journal entry for each class meeting. And I have to post it on blackboard, so I figure I would post it here as well...to make use of this blog...
1. Technical Notes: What we learned last week (8/28/12) were the basic steps for dancing in general. We had to learn how to mirror another person to be in sync with them. We learned the difference between the steps (We go forward right, left, right, together) and (back left, right, left, together), and the rock steps (go forward/back on foot *left/right* and left the opposite foot, then step and bring together). We learned the the side step, it speaks for it self ( Step right, together, right, together. Then left together, left together). The last thing we've learned was the triple steps (step forward/backwards right, slightly pass with the left, and step with the right).
2. Personal Growth: I found that the side steps were easier and I could add more flavor to them for the next time doing the side steps. The ones that I found challenging were the triple steps (and doing with music of faster speeds). I also found what was difficult is getting into with the beat. I found when I'm thinking too much, I tend to make more mistakes and I would go back to fix them. Where as when I was just dancing and just getting into the dance I either don't notice my mistakes, or I don't make as much mistakes and I just keep going forward with the dance.
1. Technical Notes: What we learned last week (8/28/12) were the basic steps for dancing in general. We had to learn how to mirror another person to be in sync with them. We learned the difference between the steps (We go forward right, left, right, together) and (back left, right, left, together), and the rock steps (go forward/back on foot *left/right* and left the opposite foot, then step and bring together). We learned the the side step, it speaks for it self ( Step right, together, right, together. Then left together, left together). The last thing we've learned was the triple steps (step forward/backwards right, slightly pass with the left, and step with the right).
2. Personal Growth: I found that the side steps were easier and I could add more flavor to them for the next time doing the side steps. The ones that I found challenging were the triple steps (and doing with music of faster speeds). I also found what was difficult is getting into with the beat. I found when I'm thinking too much, I tend to make more mistakes and I would go back to fix them. Where as when I was just dancing and just getting into the dance I either don't notice my mistakes, or I don't make as much mistakes and I just keep going forward with the dance.
Monday, September 3, 2012
Fairness...
I know this will be my 3rd post for today, but I need to share this, or I'm going to cry.
My brother left work about 5:30 and wanted to hang out with a friend of his after work. But he doesn't have any money. I was waiting to hang out with Chris when he got off of work (at 6:30). My dad asked if I could swing by to give him the money. I said yes. So I got the money to James and I told him that I have my phone on me and to call. After walking around the mall, Chris and I decided to go home...I haven't heard from James.
I'm so done with this. I'm sick of being treated like crap by my family...they don't try to help me out to pay for whatever...but damn sure they do it if James asked them....I know life is unfair, but this is ridiculous...
4 Years at the Center
Four years ago, I was taking a summer class...ECE 125. I was waiting for my class to start and we were in our last week before the summer ends, and another two weeks for the fall to start. The infant/toddler director, Wendy, was walking by and started talking to me. I told her that I was finding a job and that I applied there twice. She found my app and asked if I would like an interview tomorrow. Of course I said yes.
My interview went well. I was hoping that I would work with the older kids because I figure that they would be more independent and that I would have to take the infant/toddler class if I work with the infant/toddler rooms. I was already taking 12 units, but I was willing to do anything to get the job. At the end of my interview I was told that I was to go to get my back round check and finger prints done. Once everything cleared I would get a phone call.
After doing this, I got a phone called from the center that I would be working with Amanda in the orange room with the toddlers. That means that I need to take the infant/toddler class...on top of my other 12 units.
I've been there for four years now and I've done a lot to get where I am and to keep growing more.
I've got a job at the center
I've got my A.S. in ECE
I'm waiting on my Master Teacher Permit
I'm working on my B.S. in Child development
I'm lucky and grateful that I was given a chance to work at a wonderful place and helping me grow into something great!
My interview went well. I was hoping that I would work with the older kids because I figure that they would be more independent and that I would have to take the infant/toddler class if I work with the infant/toddler rooms. I was already taking 12 units, but I was willing to do anything to get the job. At the end of my interview I was told that I was to go to get my back round check and finger prints done. Once everything cleared I would get a phone call.
After doing this, I got a phone called from the center that I would be working with Amanda in the orange room with the toddlers. That means that I need to take the infant/toddler class...on top of my other 12 units.
I've been there for four years now and I've done a lot to get where I am and to keep growing more.
I've got a job at the center
I've got my A.S. in ECE
I'm waiting on my Master Teacher Permit
I'm working on my B.S. in Child development
I'm lucky and grateful that I was given a chance to work at a wonderful place and helping me grow into something great!
The final say!
I've got the final say into a battle of words with horrible person. She was bad mouthing my boyfriend and so I put the final letter and I didn't get an answer back. I've won this battle and I can say good bye to the trash. Here is what ended it:
"The reason why Chris doesn't want to be your friend anymore is because he is sick of your bullshit. He is sick of you trying to act like you are his girlfriend when he already has one. He is sick of you mooching off of him. He sick of you using guys (especially Ben). You treat your friends like crap. You are not a very good person. You are not a decent human being because you don't respect people, or their relationships. They reason why he asked me to do this for him is because he can't stand you. He is more man then you give him credit. He was trying to be nice and not have to tell you all this, but because you are being a little bitch about it. If you act like a kind and decent human...maybe he would tell you himself, but because you are not then you are not worth his time or energy...you are not worth it! You are selfish, spoiled, a slut, a homewrecker, fake, wannabe, and most of all a hypocrite. I hope you have a very nice life and maybe this will help you start treating people a little better."
She didn't answer back. If all these things aren't true then you would stand up for yourself. But because you don't answer back prove that you have no rebuttal to the facts!
Word of Advice: Don't let people talk down to you or your loved ones. If they do, then take charge and stand up for yourself or your loved ones.
"The reason why Chris doesn't want to be your friend anymore is because he is sick of your bullshit. He is sick of you trying to act like you are his girlfriend when he already has one. He is sick of you mooching off of him. He sick of you using guys (especially Ben). You treat your friends like crap. You are not a very good person. You are not a decent human being because you don't respect people, or their relationships. They reason why he asked me to do this for him is because he can't stand you. He is more man then you give him credit. He was trying to be nice and not have to tell you all this, but because you are being a little bitch about it. If you act like a kind and decent human...maybe he would tell you himself, but because you are not then you are not worth his time or energy...you are not worth it! You are selfish, spoiled, a slut, a homewrecker, fake, wannabe, and most of all a hypocrite. I hope you have a very nice life and maybe this will help you start treating people a little better."
She didn't answer back. If all these things aren't true then you would stand up for yourself. But because you don't answer back prove that you have no rebuttal to the facts!
Word of Advice: Don't let people talk down to you or your loved ones. If they do, then take charge and stand up for yourself or your loved ones.
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