The Ring

I don't really believe in buying a promise ring.  1) they are pricy and 2) you might as well buy a wedding ring. Spring break 2009, my boyfriend gave me his class ring to promise me that he does love me and that he wants nothing bad to happen in this relationship.  A week later, I gave my class ring to him.  We didn't do it just to show off that we are in a relationship, but it was a nice reminder that we truly care for each other.  It helped while he was up in Humboldt for two years, and we really didn't get to see each other all that often.  It always reminded me of the promise he made to me.  Because his ring is too big for my hand and my ring is too small for his hand that we put it on necklaces.

A long time ago, I saw another  couple that did the same thing.  The reason they did it was because that she wanted to show off her relationship status, and those were her words.  I'm not saying that it is wrong or right, but I don't agree with it.  A few days ago I see that she lost her ring and was bummed. 

I made this post to share why I always wear a a necklace with my boyfriend's class ring on it.  It isn't to show off my relationship status...it is for me to remember why I'm with him and that it means the world to me.

Word of advice....well I guess I don't have one....

Dear Humboldt

Dear Humboldt Fencing Club,

I am sorry that I am not rich, or wonderful like you claim to be.  I'm sorry that I treat people with respect (those who earned it).  I'm sorry that I don't take back what I say because I mean everything I say.  I'm sorry that I don't go out every night to get drunk and sleep around with different people.  I'm sorry that I stand up for myself and my loved ones.  I'm sorry that I choose to be a decent human being than spoil little brats who treat people like crap.

You think you are better than me?  Let us review:
You sleep with almost everyone
I respect my relationship and choose not to cheat
You think you are better than everyone else that don't meet your standers
I treat people with respect until they do something that breaks it
You talk shit about people
I will stand up to you

Just because you are part of a group doesn't mean that your shit doesn't stink.  Just because mommy and daddy paid for your school doesn't mean you have the right to look down on me.  I'm paying my way through school.  I work hard to be where I'm at.  You claim the people that aren't in your inner circle is beneath you, but truth be told that you are lower than scum.

Your's truly


P.S.  Not everyone in the fencing club is like this...and they know who they are

To my love

To my love,

I love you so much
I'm here for you

Give me your sadness
So I can cry with you

Give me your rage
So I can clam you

Give me your hand
So I can help you find your way

The world may be dark
It may be cruel
I will be your friend
I'll walk the road next to you

Give me your Dreams
So I can help make them come true

Give me your friendship
So you'll never be alone

Give me your heart
I promise I will never break it

I'm hear for you
I love you oh so very much

Pros and Cons

My boyfriend has been home from Humboldt for awhile.  Though he does have two jobs, I still make more money than he does, but not by much.  I made a pro and con list....

Cons of boyfriend being back:
- Go through a lot of money
- Get side track from school work
- Feeling suffocated

Pros of boyfriend being back:
-Someone to hold
-Someone to talk to
-Someone to spend time with
-Someone to comfort you
- Someone to make you laugh
-Someone to help push you forward
-Someone who will listen to you

It looks like that there is a lot of pros of having him back!  I'm glad that my boyfriend is back from Humboldt and is transferring to CSUN.   If he stayed another year up there, I would more and likely broke up with him.  He wasn't becoming a good person and someone that wasn't him.  A lot of trust issues that he caused. Over all him being back is what saved our relationship

Man and Dog

Women always joke about how dogs are better companions than men because they are better listeners, or they will not cheat on you.  The thing is that a man and a dog has one thing in common with each other, and that is they both will love you unconditionally.  Do not get me wrong that there are guys that are jerks and will use you, and the same goes for women.  If you find the right guy, he will love you for everything that you are.  Women are the ones that tend to over think in the relationship and I know that I'm guilty of it.

Once you find the right guy, he will love you to the ends of earth.  My boyfriend is good to me and sometimes I think he is too good for me.  He will take care of me and make sure that I'm happy and okay before taking care of himself.  I have never dated anyone that loved me so much like him, and I can tell that everything he says and do that it is true.  There is a few thing that he needs to learn and work on, but overall he does everything right and beyond.  He could say something that I took the wrong way and I'll be mad at him.  I scream at him and tell him to go away, and he will listen to me, tell me that he loves me, and he will leave the room.  The thing that he needs to work on is setting boundaries with other girls, and reassuring that nothing is going on with his gal pals.  When you don't do that and make up reason why, then it seems like something is going on, and you give your girl a reason why they shouldn't trust you.

As women, we over think everything; especially love.  We make relationships much more complex then we really should.  We are the ones with the trust issues and we get jealous, so we cause more problems then it really needed to be.  We are always questioning his moves, his motivates, and his feelings.  Women can not take what the man does for face value.  To be fare that there are some guys that aren't the niceset guys in the world, and once again this goes the same way for women as well.

Word of advice:  If you have someone that loves you unconditionally and so much that we should treat them a little better.  We should not let our guard down just in case if someone is trying to use you, but if they are truly a good person don't question why.  Make sure give your partner a reason why they should trust you.