A real man

I have seen a few post from girls saying that they want a bad boy that is only good for them.  For me, I want a good guy. The type of guy that wants to do right by me, he is scared to lose me, that I am his world.

I do have that guy.  I have posted a few things about how I was unhappy with the relationship because it was all his fault.  The truth is yes, he got drunk and a girl came on to him.  She invited him to her room.  And you know what he did?  He walked away from her.  He sent me an email still drunk telling me what happened.  I was hurt and it hurt for awhile because I never got closer until a few years ago.   His whole time at Humboldt was a nightmare,  but when he hit rock bottom
And was kicked out, it has opened up his eyes and he realized that he needed to grow up.  You know what? He did just that, he grew up! He owned up to his mistakes and try to make right to everyone that he wronged.   Those people were his mom, dad, myself,  and most importantly himself.   If we can forgive and try to get pass the nightmare,  than what is your problem? Even when you acknowledge the positive results.

What makes a man?

He Is A Gentleman

He Is Direct

He Is Faithful

He Has Integrity

He Is Honest

He Is Mature

He Is Self-Confident

He Has a Positive Attitude

And now and the past year or so that Chris has grown to be all these things on that list.  He has always been a gentleman back in high school.   He helps me when I fall, holds doors open for me, walk me to my door, carry my bag, and when he can he pays for me (and you know what? I don't expect him to pay for me all the time). He has a direction of what he wants in life and he is working his ass off to get what he wants.  He has never once cheated on me, never and I can say that with confidence!  He had many opportunities to cheat and didn't.   A real man doesn't sleep with a million women, a real man love one woman a million ways.  He use to lie all the time,  but when his life was falling apart he need to change,  and guess what? He did! He is working hard to make the life he wants and he has been honest with his parents, me, and to himself.  He has owned up to what he did wrong and he is cleaning up the mess that he had made.   He is happy with himself and the way his life is going.

A real man isn't based on haw many women he can get, or how perfect he think he may be (aka God's gift to women).  A real man knows his flaws, his mistakes, and he tries to make it better and do what is right even if he was wrong.  He loves only one, he doesn't sleep around. He isn't proud about hurting women, or making them cry and thinks it is great success for him.

I am proud of Chris and what he is doing.  He made mistakes, but he changed.   He wants me happy and he wants to be the one to do that. He  does make happy, he treats me as an equal,  he values what I have to say, what I feel.  He is a good guy and he won't take advantage of people. He doesn't make me do things that I don't like.  I am truly happy despite what the naysayers think that they know (because they know crap).

If you are not happy,  if your "loved one" is making you do things that you don't want to do,  doesn't listens to you, has to have sex with other women, won't let you do your thing that makes you happy, won't let you  express yourself,  forces you to ignore your friends, you so he can booty...that is not a relationship...it is being a toy.

I can honsestly say I am happy with my relationship and my life. Can you say the same?