Random Thoughts and Everyday Life
Restlessly Still
Wednesday, April 20, 2016
Going through life
I have my problems, my anxieties, mood swings, but I move on. I push forward because I don't let my issues control me. I am a person and I take on life one thing at time and I push forward. I am a preschool teacher and I want to show the kids that there is strong people out there and they can be strong too. That the "tools" out there to help escape it for awhile isn't going to help. The problem is that people think pot and alchol will fix everything, but it doesn't. It only put the issues on pause for awhile and then you have to go back to it and the problems will just pile up.
Monday, June 22, 2015
Opening old wounds, making new ones
Thursday, September 4, 2014
A real man
I have seen a few post from girls saying that they want a bad boy that is only good for them. For me, I want a good guy. The type of guy that wants to do right by me, he is scared to lose me, that I am his world.
I do have that guy. I have posted a few things about how I was unhappy with the relationship because it was all his fault. The truth is yes, he got drunk and a girl came on to him. She invited him to her room. And you know what he did? He walked away from her. He sent me an email still drunk telling me what happened. I was hurt and it hurt for awhile because I never got closer until a few years ago. His whole time at Humboldt was a nightmare, but when he hit rock bottom
And was kicked out, it has opened up his eyes and he realized that he needed to grow up. You know what? He did just that, he grew up! He owned up to his mistakes and try to make right to everyone that he wronged. Those people were his mom, dad, myself, and most importantly himself. If we can forgive and try to get pass the nightmare, than what is your problem? Even when you acknowledge the positive results.
What makes a man?
He Is A Gentleman
He Is Direct
He Is Faithful
He Has Integrity
He Is Honest
He Is Mature
He Is Self-Confident
He Has a Positive Attitude
And now and the past year or so that Chris has grown to be all these things on that list. He has always been a gentleman back in high school. He helps me when I fall, holds doors open for me, walk me to my door, carry my bag, and when he can he pays for me (and you know what? I don't expect him to pay for me all the time). He has a direction of what he wants in life and he is working his ass off to get what he wants. He has never once cheated on me, never and I can say that with confidence! He had many opportunities to cheat and didn't. A real man doesn't sleep with a million women, a real man love one woman a million ways. He use to lie all the time, but when his life was falling apart he need to change, and guess what? He did! He is working hard to make the life he wants and he has been honest with his parents, me, and to himself. He has owned up to what he did wrong and he is cleaning up the mess that he had made. He is happy with himself and the way his life is going.
A real man isn't based on haw many women he can get, or how perfect he think he may be (aka God's gift to women). A real man knows his flaws, his mistakes, and he tries to make it better and do what is right even if he was wrong. He loves only one, he doesn't sleep around. He isn't proud about hurting women, or making them cry and thinks it is great success for him.
I am proud of Chris and what he is doing. He made mistakes, but he changed. He wants me happy and he wants to be the one to do that. He does make happy, he treats me as an equal, he values what I have to say, what I feel. He is a good guy and he won't take advantage of people. He doesn't make me do things that I don't like. I am truly happy despite what the naysayers think that they know (because they know crap).
If you are not happy, if your "loved one" is making you do things that you don't want to do, doesn't listens to you, has to have sex with other women, won't let you do your thing that makes you happy, won't let you express yourself, forces you to ignore your friends, you so he can booty...that is not a relationship...it is being a toy.
I can honsestly say I am happy with my relationship and my life. Can you say the same?
Monday, August 18, 2014
50 shades of issues?
There is a big debate about the 50 shades of Grey movie. When the books came out, people made it a big deal as well. I read all three books to see what the issue was about and found that it was exactly what to expect from this book [IT IS PORN!] It is like every other lady's romance novel. If people is making a big issue about one book series, then do the same with the other romantic novels and not single out just this one.
Another reason is the writing is horrible and/or it is Twilight fan fiction. I agree completely with that statement! Yes I didn't agree with Twilight nor did I like it! I felt like it was a major let down and there was so much that could have been done with it. I know what I was getting myself into when reading 50 shades of Grey and yes the writing was bad, but it wasn't to the point that you couldn't read the book. For me it was a guilty reading pleasure. I also found myself having a hard time reading books similar to it.
Some argue that it doesn't represent the BDSM community. There is a difference between BDSM and a Dominant and submissive relationship. It does uses the terms and what not that is used in BDSM and D/s relationship. Though I do agree that in start of their weird relationship could be seen as date rape. Others will argue that he is abusive, not BDSM or D/s relationship. Yes he is abusive because the author added a twist (he had a drug addict mother and he likes to beat little brown haired girls that reminds him of his mother). On a psychological point of view makes it interesting to read.
I'm not saying people need to read this book series or go to see the movie, but I am saying that you should stop bashing it. I thought twilight (both books and movies) were terrible, but I am not going to make a big deal about it like people are doing about 50 shades of Grey.
Word of advice:
People need to stop raining on others opinions because the same can be done about the things that you like. Don't like the book, don't like the movie? Don't read it, don't watch it!
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
My 100th post (Women=objects?)
This is sickening that a guy thinks that he is God's gift to women and that the females of the human kind should be throwing themselves to him. Well I am sorry to break the news, but women are NOT objects.
The sad thing is that there is some men out there who believe that women purpose on this planet is to be in the kitchen and serving her man. Also that they should give up her body to him when ever he demand it.
I hope that with all the shootings that we had the past few months will be put to an end. Also, women are not objects and that her body is hers and not of a man for whatever he wants with whenever he wants it.
Tuesday, April 29, 2014
Book Report: The Divergent Series
I have read many books in the past, but never to think to post my feelings on a blog about it. But hey, why not? I have been having mixed emotions about what I read so far. This is completely my opinion, so if you loved it that is great and if you hated it then that is good too.
The two main characters are hard to stand. The main character Beatrice, or as she is refer as Tris. I get that wanting a new identity when going into a new fraction, but you can't come up with a better name. To me it felt like the character is trying to be a bad ass with a pretty lousy one syllable nickname. Through out the book, they play that she is truly selfless despite how she view her self. Most of the book is about the love interest and being selfless for him. Her parents died and there were a few ways she could have help. She killed one of her friends that could have been spared. But when it came to her boyfriend, she did everything her power to help him or snap him back to normal. She also ruins every plan because she thinks she knows what it is best. They play her as a special snowflake. I was happy that there is more than two divergents in the book. I do love when she did snap and screaming that she cannot be controlled.
The other character is Tobias, or Four. He is the love interested and the high school girl's dream of the bad boy going good for that one lucky girl. He comes off as a jerk and yet Tris keeps going after him. They just met and they are already in love. This romance is a little too Twilight for me. They do not care for the fact that they only help either themselves, or the lover. Rarely I read that they cared to help someone else.
I truly enjoy the concept, the minor characters, and the idea. The hard part is the two main characters. They are hard to like and that you do root for the other guy at times. I hope that the third book gets better with both Tris and 4.
That is my book report so far on what I read. Like I said before, you can agree with me or not, just remember that it is my own thoughts.
Saturday, April 26, 2014
I'm sorry
The past few months I was thinking about how people react after I or someone else say "I'm sorry." I notcie that I get the same thing: "It's not your fault", "Why are you sorry", or "you didn't do anything."
Yes, thanking you for lettig me know that it wasn't my fault because I totally was trying to make your life hell! I know that it wasn't my fault and that there is nothing that I can do.
When I say sorry, it doesn't mean that it was my fault, or that I am trying to fix what is wrong. I say it because I feel bad that it happened, I feel bad that I can't do much to make things a little better for you.
What I am trying to say is that there is more than one or two meaning when apologizing. Sometimes you can make someone feel like crap and feel worse when saying it's not your fault.
Word of advice:
Sorry is not just a black and white thing